Love is practical as well as sacrificial. It may cause inconvenience and challenges one's comfort zone. Though it is not based on the emotions, but if you're interested to let any relationship develop, it is essential to let your beloved feel and know that they are loved, by their language of love. You know there's "The Five Love Languages" coined out by Dr Gary Chapman:
1. Words of Affirmation
2. Quality Time
3. Receiving Gifts
4. Acts of Service
5. Personal Touch
Recently I did a simple (unofficial) quiz on this. Looking back, I kinda doubt it's accuracy. Maybe it just reflects that moment of need. Perhaps, perhaps, perhaps...
By the way, there's also "The Five Languages of Apology" - how most sincere an apology is deemed:
1. Expressing Regret
2. Accept Responsibility
3. Make Restitution
4. Genuinely Repent
5. Request Forgiveness
People have their rights to conceal their personal data and I intend to respect their choice of revelation, rather than insist against their preference to resist, for whatever reasons. On the other hand, then, others certainly would have their rights to reveal more, regardless of the propriety. People differ in their understanding of the measure of proper behaviour and their comfort level. Nobody has the true standard to social norms and thus perhaps we should learn not to roll our eyes over varying choice of confirmity and love languages.
Perhaps, we can obtain the true standard from Galatians 5:22-26 on, not so much the method, but the kind of outcome from which our words, thoughts and deeds should reap in us:
"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the sinful nature with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other."
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